There is no specific advice on how to use your body language. What you do might be interpreted in several ways, depending on the setting and who you are talking to. You’ll probably want to use your body language differently when talking to your boss compared to when you talk to a girl/guy you’re interested in. These are some common interpretations of body language and often more effective ways to communicate with your body.
- You are and everyone is the unique creation; neither a product of assembly line nor a sheep from the herd. Love your body language the way you feel most comfortable with it.
- Don’t cross your arms or legs – You have probably already heard you shouldn’t cross your arms as it might make you seem defensive or guarded. This goes for your legs too. Keep your arms and legs open.
- Use your both hands if you are conveying anything through hands.
- Have eye contact, but don’t stare – If there are several people you are talking to, give them all some eye contact to create a better connection and see if they are listening. Keeping too much eye-contact might creep people out. Giving no eye-contact might make you seem insecure. If you are not used to keeping eye-contact it might feel a little hard or scary in the beginning but keep working on it and you’ll get used to it.
- While talking to a person, make your face, hands, legs and entire body directed to that person.
- Never ever stare at head or much lower part below the neck, try to maintain parallel sight. Actually staring at head shows domination and staring at lower body parts shows servility.
- Don’t be afraid to take up some space – Taking up space by for example sitting or standing with your legs apart a bit signals self-confidence and that you are comfortable in your own skin.
- Make your body posture friendly with the other person but always maintain a distance.
- Relax your shoulders – When you feel tense it’s easily winds up as tension in your shoulders. They might move up and forward a bit. Try to relax. Try to loosen up by shaking the shoulders a bit and move them back slightly.
- Nod when they are talking – nod once in a while to signal that you are listening. But don’t overdo it and peck like Woody Woodpecker.
- Whatever you say your body must also agree with it.
- Listen carefully and reply with the same tone of voice of the question being asked to you. It will show you have equal strength and power and the other person will regard you.
- Try to use “we” and “you” rather using “I”.
- You can touch your face and can rub your hair but don’t do if not needed.
- Keep a good attitude – last but not least, keep a positive, open and relaxed attitude. How you feel will come through in your body language and can make a major difference.
You can change your body language but as all new habits it takes a while. Especially things like keeping you head up might take time to correct if you have spent thousands of days looking at your feet. And if you try and change to many things at once it might become confusing and feel overwhelming.