Self esteem increases your confidence. If you have confidence you will respect yourself and then you can respect others, improve your relationships and become happier….this is not a selfish goal as you will contribute more and share yourself with the world and those around you.
Confidence matters in :
- life skills – decision making, achieving, improving situations or circumstances you don’t like
- expressing yourself
- taking up new challenges
- being open to change
- self improvement
It comes from several sources:
- from within yourself
- from others
- from your achievements
Here, are some ways you can build your confidence and indirectly your self esteem.
- Face your fears – challenges seem scary but your fears are usually exaggerated. Facing your fears increases your confidence and boosts your esteem.
- Forget your failures – learn from them. Avoid making the same mistakes again but don’t limit yourself by assuming you failed before so you can’t succeed this time. Try again, you’re wiser and stronger. Don’t be trapped in the past!
- Work on your self confidence
- Know what you want and ask for it. Learn to be assertive – you deserve your dreams to come true!
- Reward yourself when you succeed. No-one else will! Isn’t everything easier when you take time to help yourself? Make a list of your successes and focus on the positive.
- Talk – We often make assumptions about a situation or person which are not true. Your attitude and behaviour can be negatively affected so if you have any doubt or question ask and don’t assume you know why or how.
- Don’t be defeated! Try something else. You are not going to be defeated by one failed attempt are you? Doesn’t everyone fail before they succeed? All you need is a different approach.
- Don’t fall into depression.