Self esteem increases your confidence. If you have confidence you will respect yourself and then you can respect others, improve your relationships and become happier….this is not a selfish goal as you will contribute more and share yourself with the world and those around you.
Confidence matters in :
- life skills – decision making, achieving, improving situations or circumstances you don’t like
- expressing yourself
- taking up new challenges
- being open to change
- self improvement
It comes from several sources:
- from within yourself
- from others
- from your achievements
Here, are some ways you can build your confidence and indirectly your self esteem.
- Face your fears – challenges seem scary but your fears are usually exaggerated. Facing your fears increases your confidence and boosts your esteem.
- Forget your failures – learn from them. Avoid making the same mistakes again but don’t limit yourself by assuming you failed before so you can’t succeed this time. Try again, you’re wiser and stronger. Don’t be trapped in the past!
- Work on your self confidence
- Know what you want and ask for it. Learn to be assertive – you deserve your dreams to come true!
- Reward yourself when you succeed. No-one else will! Isn’t everything easier when you take time to help yourself? Make a list of your successes and focus on the positive.
- Talk – We often make assumptions about a situation or person which are not true. Your attitude and behaviour can be negatively affected so if you have any doubt or question ask and don’t assume you know why or how.
- Don’t be defeated! Try something else. You are not going to be defeated by one failed attempt are you? Doesn’t everyone fail before they succeed? All you need is a different approach.
- Don’t fall into depression.
Self-esteem is the experience of being competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and of being worthy of happiness. It consists of two components: (1) Self-efficacy—confidence in one’s ability to think, learn, choose, and make appropriate decisions, and, by extension, to master challenges and manage change; and (2) self-respect—confidence in one’s right to be happy, and, by extension, confidence that achievement, success, friendship, respect, love, and fulfillment are appropriate for oneself
We all have a mental picture of who we are, how we look, what we’re good at, and what our weaknesses might be. We develop this picture over time, starting when we’re very young kids. The term self-image is used to refer to a person’s mental picture of himself or herself. A lot of our self-image is based on interactions we have with other people and our life experiences. This mental picture (our self-image) contributes to our self-esteem.
Self-esteem is all about how much we feel valued, loved, accepted, and thought well of by others — and how much we value, love, and accept ourselves.
Here are some ways you can Build your Self Esteem:
- Recognize your insecurities. What does that voice in the back of your mind say? What makes you ashamed of yourself? This could be anything from acne, to regrets, or friends at school. Whatever is making you feel unworthy, ashamed, or inferior, identify it, give it a name, and write it down. You can also tear up these written pieces to eliminate negativity and start feeling positive on those points.
- Realize you’re Worth It. You need to realize that you are worth it. Make sure you don’t degrade yourself but point out the good things. Everyone has good things. Trust me.
- Remember that no one is perfect. Even the most confident people have insecurities. Just tell yourself that you are awesome. “I am awesome and nobody else matters…” At some point in any of our lives, we may feel we lack something. That is reality. Learn that life is full of bumps down the road.
- Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, then focus on your talents.Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes.
- Be Thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it’s emotional validation, good luck, money, etc.
- Be Positive, even if you don’t feel the same way. Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior–they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress
- Being realistic is of paramount importance. Because neither should you think less of yourself, nor should you think that you are better than you really are.
- Always keep a smile on your face, that will build a lot of self-confidence.
- Share your knowledge & your experience with others.
You weren’t born perfect – nobody is. But you can do something to make your life a lot better than what is experienced by the average individual. The people who are the happiest with their lives are those who can learn to love themselves just the way they are. Hope the above points will help you do so and Boost your Self – Esteem.